Does the thought of putting yourself back onto the dating scene fill you with dread rather than joy?
Are your nerves causing you to find a million excuses NOT to date, even though you’d love to find someone lovely?
Have you tried online dating, but without much success?
💔Were you disappointed when the only people who contacted you were either 20 years younger, six inches shorter, or 3,000 miles away?
💔Did you arrange a date, only to be left hanging, as plans were never confirmed and things just fizzled out?
💔Have you watched all your friends settle down, split up, and settle down again, while you wait for someone lovely to appear?
💔Are you worried that your self-protective armour is now impenetrable, and that nobody will ever have the time or the patience to break it down?
💔Have you heard so much contradictory dating advice now that you honestly have no idea what to do anymore?
I can help you
I’ve been the Dating Expert for Match and its sister site Ourtime since 2006, and I’m the Dating Expert for Readers Digest. In my career, I’ve helped hundreds of singles just like you find their way through the dating maze, to their happy ending, through live events, books and courses.
I offer online-dating coaching
With my industry experience, I’ve learned what really works online — from which photos attract the right people, to why the best men usually write the worst opening messages.
And with my personal experience, I’ve successfully put my knowledge into practice twice:
💕I met my first husband through online dating in 1999 when I was in my 20s. This was when online dating was brand new. We were married for 10 years, and have two awesome children together.
💕When my first husband and I went our separate ways, I went back to online dating. I was a single mum, almost 40, with ginger hair – which all, according to research, put me in the bottom 1% of online desirability, so I wasn’t expecting miracles! But I put everything I knew about online dating into practice – and I met my second husband within 4 months.
I LOVE online dating 🥰
I love everything about looking for love online — the convenience, the fun, the variety. From apps to websites, I think there’s something magical about the process of turning an online attraction into an offline, real, relationship.
But I’d be lying if I said there weren’t tricky bits to finding love online. There are questions and issues that seem to come up again and again, whenever groups of online daters get together.
How do you spot, and weed out, timewasters?
How do you write a profile text that will attract the type of person you’re looking for?
Which photos should you use on your profile?
How much time should you spend on the app or website?
Online dating can be amazing
When you understand online dating, and how to boost your chances of success, it becomes fun again.
💗No more feeling like you’re wearing your heart on your sleeve, you feel in control and calm.
💗No more watching your inbox die a slow agonising death – messages keep coming in, week after week. (There’s a really easy way to ensure your profile is always top of the list when new members join the site.)
💗No more worrying if your date is going to turn up. No more feeling the need to confirm plans. No more trekking across town on the off chance someone might show up… Instead, you feel safe and secure, because you have definite plans with a definite date.
💗No more hilarious bad-date stories to share with your friends. Instead, you’ll have the kind of romantic experiences that make your friends take a long, hard look at their own husbands.
I’ll help you find your happy ending
I’m here to hold your hand through your online-dating journey. From that moment when you sit in front of your blank profile page, right through to the moment when you joyously cancel your membership because you met someone, I’d love to be your online-dating coach.
We can do as much or as little as you need. If you want someone just to help you create your profile and choose the right photos, that’s cool.
Or if you’ve been burned by bad experiences before and would like a guiding hand for a bit longer through the process this time round, I can offer you ongoing support.
What lovely people are saying so far
I’ve started coaching some women already, and their feedback has been amazing. In fact, it’s given me the confidence to open up my coaching to a wider audience. Here are some of the comments I’ve received:
“I really believe in you – my confidence in you is giving me confidence in myself, already.”Female coaching client
“The session was really well structured and empowering and I found your responses to me really refreshing (especially compared to my friend) because you didn’t say the stuff I’ve heard before and you questioned my assumptions in ways I wasn’t expecting, which is great.”Female coaching client
“The tasks and this summary is pitched exactly right for where I am.”Female coaching client
Contact me for more information
If you’d like to know more, please send me a message using this form. I’ll get back in touch within 2 days, and we can discuss the issues you’re struggling with, and see if coaching might be a good fit for you. Or maybe you’ll just need a profile tidy-up, or a confidence boost!
I’ll be here if you need me to help.